2006 - Fall - She starts school. All seems to be going well but she seems to be getting into the party scene and drinking because she's not getting involved in other things that would be better for her. She makes pretty decent grades.
No student loan at this point.
2006 - Spring - She gets into drinking and party scene even more. As an example,
she comes back to the room and throws up on the floor; can't even make it to the bathroom. She spends good majority of weekends sick all the time from too much alcohol and does not get schoolwork done.
Her grades take a drop but she says she's going to work harder next year and not do what she did. No student loan at this point.
She has to take summer school class which mom and stepdad pay for.
Both sets of parents have paid in excess of $18,000 for her education at this point.
2007 - Fall - She goes back to school, proceeds to get
heavily into the party scene again.
Sleeping through class, going out on weekends to get blackout drunk, spending weekends in bed, not studying. Her grades take a sharp downward turn. January 2007, She is informed that she needs to get a 3.0 for the next semester or she will have to leave the university.
Still no student loan.
Education has cost parents $27,000 by this stage.
2007 - Spring - She returns to school after getting involved with boyfriend A and knowing she must get a 3.0. She strikes up friendship with friend A who doesn't have to study in her courses. She doesn't study, sleeps through classes, goes out to purposely get blackout drunk, constantly obsessing over drama with boyfriend A, doesn't do homework then tries to pull it out at the last minute. She fails class and grades do not meet requirements. She also rushes sorority and allows parents to pay in excess of
$2,000 for her to join but then never does anything with the group because she thinks she's too good for them and is obsessed with partying with friend A.
Education has cost parents (including sorority) in excess of $38,000. Still no student loan.
Late Spring 2007, Her father stops paying educational support and stepdad says f
uck it. We will not put out our hard-earned money for education when father has stopped paying and she is not applying herself, clearly does not understand the value of getting an education.. is more concerned with drinking.
We apply for student loan for following school year.
Summer 2007,
She gets arrested for alcohol consumption for second time. The picture shows even more that She only cares about drinking and partying.
2007 - Fall - She goes to a commuter campus. Student loan does not cover entire costs of attendance. Mom and stepdad have to make up difference and buy books, parking, incidentals. Mom buys a membership for her to the commuter campus sports and fitness center for the first semester. She never sets foot in the place. Yet more wasted money. Her grades are marginal, further confirmation that she does not care about education.
Education costs are running in excess of $40,000.
2007 - Spring - She still at the commuter campus. Once again, student loan does not cover entire costs. Mom and stepdad have to make up difference. She starts going out with boyfriend B who has to tell her to do her schoolwork. She is more focused on social life. She skips classes and generally doesn't apply herself. She gets better grades because someone (boyfriend B) was telling her to do her work.
She clearly doesn't want to work. Education costs totalling more than $42,000 (on the low end).
She and boyfriend B break up for various reasons not the least of which is her problem alcohol consumption.
2008 - Fall - She's again at the commuter campus in a Business program. Student loan doesn't cover costs. At this point, She has received money for three semesters. Mom and stepdad step in to make up difference.
She knows going in, semester will be hard and take a lot of work.
She sleeps through classes regularly, doesn't do homework, blows off meetings with business group and focuses on drama with boyfriend C. Her grades are abysmal and clear indication of her lack of work ethic.
Education costs have run more than $44,000 and stepdad says "you're done".
In all more than
$44,000 has been spent on her education which does not include the
brand new (honda civic '08) automobile purchased for her to drive which she regularly says she does not want and gets into car accidents due to her lack of attention on the road.
In the meantime from
summer of 2008 through December 2008,
She screws around at no less than three different jobs and gets fired from all three (in one year) for showing up late, using cell phone when specifically told not to, etc. She then struggles to find a job right after the holidays and has been digging out ever since. Now She feels the need to attack mom and stepdad every time she gets mad about money because she can't have her money all to herself.
She has the nerve to question Mom and stepdad's decision to get a student loan and attack them for asking her to pay rent and act as though not enough has been provided to her when more than $40,000 has been spent on her. She has the nerve to bring up her sister's education which has cost in the neighborhood of less
$8,000 as compared to her expenses
$40,000+.. but She thinks mom and stepdad haven't been "fair to her".
She still does not have her degree and her sister is graduating with an associate's degree of applied sciences in December who has made the dean's list.
In closing, that is
44,000$+
WASTED on someone who clearly was not that serious about school and are being punished for the consequences. Her friends tell her it's BS that the parents are making her pay rent but they don't know how much the parents have thrown down the drain for her to (from what it seems) just ruin her education and party all the time.
